So it's been a week since I have been able to get away and write. My almost three year old has been super clingy lately and has insisted that only mommy can give her a bath and rock her to sleep. Makes for a very tired mommy who falls into bed right after putting Addy down - instead of blogging. I cannot not tell her no and although daddy tries to step in and do it for me, it breaks my heart to not spend time with her because I know a big change is right around the corner. And so every time she wants me, I let her have mommy time. It's amazing how difficult I thought my first pregnancy was, towards the end. It is nothing compared to the second (and third...and so on) pregnancy when you have a little one at home.
I have found that kids often fall in and out of random phases. The worst phase I can remember lasted only two weeks and it was the separation anxiety phase. It was horrible! She didn't want Gigi or Nana to watch her which is REALLY out of character for her. Also, every Sunday, leaving her in the nursery at church was very dramatic and torture for mommy. All those people knew her well and it was so random. It actually made it really hard for me to concentrate while I was in church or if we were out on a date. If I left Addy crying for me, I was distracted the entire time and always rushed home, wasn't able to enjoy myself. It drove Matt crazy.
Well, this phase is different. It has to do with her sleeping habits. Whether it be napping or going to bed at night/sleeping through the night. I thought she would have moved out of it now because it's been almost a month but no. We never allowed Addy to sleep with us in our bed accept if she was sick and I was worried about her fever spiking or something We chose to do this partly because of all the safety risks it poses but also because we need time just the two of us to watch a movie, play on the computer, chat about our day and discuss things/decision that we can't do that if we have a kiddo always in the bed. Adults need adult time.
So lately, I have had to rock addy to sleep and then gently place her in her bed. If she's super tired (from refusing her nap) then she will stay asleep for a few hours in her own bed. If she isn't tired enough, she will immediately sit straight up and say "go to mommy's bed?" The only way I can get her to stay in her bed is to lay down with her till she falls asleep and then silently (VERY SILENTLY) sneak out of the room. She did not used to do this and has regressed which I hear is normal.
In May, we implemented the "big girl room" with her new bed -instead of the crib- and the new room (Sawyer gets her old one). She has done great the past three months. So why after a few hours in her own bed, does she realize that she is all alone and jumps out of bed and comes running into our room crying? We usually pick her up and rock her and she falls asleep almost immediately until we try again to lay her in her bed. She always wakes up and wants us to stay or wants to go to "mommy's bed". Now, this is the part where we probably messed up. If I wasn't pregnant and exhausted all the time and if Matt wasn't exhausted from picking up all my slack and watching Addy all day long, we almost certainly, would have handled this differently. BUT since we both have been so tired lately, we have been just putting her in bed with us. Addy sleeps so hard and good when she's in our bed. She wakes up a cheerful person. But WE struggle all night to sleep good. Addy is a sprawler- meaning her feet are often in our face or she snuggles up right in our face or kicks us in the stomach....and even though we have a king sized bed, we are not comfortable at all when she is sleeping with us. We are all in bad moods and it makes for a long day for me at work . So, that is our current parenting flaw that we are struggling with at this point in our life. I really need to commit it to the Lord
(Proverbs 16:3) Even the little things He cares about. (like finding a good home for the dog...haha)
Here are two of my fav 2 yr birthday pictures from about a year ago. Oct 2011. Our life will be so different from how it was last year around her birthday! So excited!
Speaking of Addy's birthday on Oct 23rd, I always get a little too ambitious thinking about birthday themes and "cheap ways" of carrying my ideas out. ( THANKS PINTEREST!!) I have to remind myself that we will have a three week old! I'm hoping this time around my labor/recovery will be much easier both physically and emotionally on me. I feel much more prepared already but maybe not enough to make this cake.... This is a cake that I soooooo want to make for Addy this year for her birthday but my "mom instincts" tell me I should wait till her 4 year birthday and just do it up big. Even though newborns sleep a lot, they are draining and I might not feel like myself yet after three weeks.
This cake idea is from one of my new favorite baking blogs. I've been reading through a lot of her cake recipes on there for about a week now, drooling on myself the entire time, when I came across this particular one. I fell in love with it, mostly because of how creative it is and many different ways you could customize it to your party theme, boy or girl. And it really doesn't look that difficult to make.
I guess Addy can afford to have one lame birthday party in her lifetime right?... with store-bought cupcakes.....gasp! Anyway, I haven't decided how I'm gonna make this a very low-maintaince party. If u have any ideas, throw them my way. Im thinking the park is a good place.....maybe?
On to another topic.....
Well, we did it. We gave Goose away. He has been gone about a week now. We had him for exactly three years. What were we thinking getting another dog? Oh ya, we didn't want Maverick to get lonely. But ya know what, Mav wants the house to himself believe it or not! He wants all the attention too! haha! They were constantly competing with one another for our attention. They are both so much better behaved now that they are separate!! It's awesome! I can't believe how God worked everything out so perfectly. I would never have given "Goosey" away to just anyone. The fact that a nurse/friend/ co-worker of mine was looking for a dog for her kiddos, was completely a God thing. I am so glad he went to a good family that will love him and give him attention and that I can check in on him whenever I want.
The past week Addy has been asking "where's Goosey?" I just decided to tell her " He went bye bye to play with friends..." This is not a lie. She is not even three yet and so I chose not to go into much detail. Matt said she will gradually forget him so thats good (and sad). It has been extra quiet around here lately. And a lot less to vacuum. lol. We will miss him, but its a good change for our family. Again, thank you Lord for working it out so perfectly!!!
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I will leave you now with a 34 week pic of my pregnancy with Addy. You can compare it to the one of me with Sawyer. I am definitely bigger this time around and I'm feeling worse too. Only 5 weeks to go before I'm induced at 39 weeks. Although, I would love it if my water broke a tad early. Time goes so slow in the end!
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